Nature Abhors a Vacuum

This quote, attributed to Aristotle, is the underlying principle for changing one's life.

How many times have you tried to change your behavior by removing something? "I won't eat sugar and carbs," "I'm going to stop smoking cigarettes," "I won't look at porn tonight," or "I'm not going to drink more than one drink at the party." All examples of removing something and leaving a vacuum.

Since nature abhors a vacuum, when you create one with using a negative and removing something, the vacuum will suck back in whatever is most available, which is the very thing that you just tried to take away.

So instead of deprivation, frame your intention with a positive action that will contribute to you becoming the person you want to be. When I quit smoking for the fifth (and last) time, I finally took on my new identity as a non-smoker. When I craved a cigarette, I said "I am a non-smoker!" and simply turned my attention back to what I was doing in that moment.

Schedule your day and fill your time with the activities and behaviors that are congruent with your desired self. Let go of fighting what you want in the next moment and notice what is present in this one, which is already what you decided you want.

I am exercising, I am talking to a friend, I am walking my dog, I am breathing.

Be In Light